If I asked you how to move your mouth to speak certain words it would be tough for you to figure it out, but when you speak you will move your mouth through acrobatics at high speed without even thinking about it. The same concept applies to inner game: when you have good inner game all the body language and whatnot comes naturally (to most of us!) and can be executed smoothly without any thought.
So what is good inner game?
First of all get to know yourself and what works for you. Does talking to girls make you nervous? How do you deal with nervousness emotionally? What do you think about in every stage of the hookup? Do you get anxious at certain points?
Next take the advice of PUAs and learn to set your mindset to a good place in order to attract chicks. I recommend either the gunswitch frame or a frame I will call the Stormy frame. In the gunswitch frame, you just constantly think sexually about the girl and sexual body language and speech will hopefully follow. The Stormy frame entails a good vibey feeling of happiness and fun. If you are tough enough to hold these frames your game will probably be solid.
FRAME STRENGTH:
Now here's where its really hard, and heres where knowing yourself really helps. In set you may forget your frame, get thrown off by an offensive or suggestive concept or be tired/not in the mood to get into the right mindset. Frame strength is your ability to stay in correct frame despite whatever is going on. All the good PUAs I have met have appeared to have excellent frame strength so its something worth working on.
THE GOLDEN RULE:
This rule is really from Stormy but I have modified it slightly. The golden rule of pickup is that the world conforms to your worldview. If you believe you will succeed you will. If you think you're being phony everybody else will too.
The Silver Rule:
The Silver Rule is also from Stormy and its that everybody in an interaction feels whatever the person with the strongest frame feels. In other words, they feel what you do. So you wanna girl to be attracted to you? Be attracted to her.
Inner Game of Attraction:
So why do you go for girls? Is it for self-confidence, ego, or actual attraction. Actual attraction is definitely the best option. Why? Because if you feel actual attraction she will too. Develop your sexuality, don't go for the girl that all your friends think is hot, go for the girl that attracts you for whatever reason.
Rejection:
Rejection is both one of the scariest parts of pickup and the easiest way to lose a frame. We've all been rejected at like a high-school dance and not been able to go for another girl, or gotten blown out in set and had mad trouble opening the next set. You have to realize that rejection is a natural teaching tool, and a bar that separates the men from the boys. Every time I get rejected I say thank you because I believe that each rejection makes me far better at pickup. The dudes who can keep opening despite rejection are the best PUAs, and obviously also have the strongest frames (more reason to work on frame strength).
Drive:
Just like that tough test, or the last rep of a good workout Pickup takes drive to start and continue. Consider using pump-up music or taking some time to get focused before pickup. Personally, I initially started pickup to get over the worthlessness I felt because I had gotten none for years. Nowadays whenever I'm like "maybe ill just chill tonight" or "Ill open the next set" I think back to how low I felt back before I got into the game and then I can easily go for that next set. You wanna be good at this shit???? It takes drive like anything else.
Hope I helped you all
Good luck
-Fiery
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